When you find yourself in a negative situation, completely out of your control, take a look at it and say to yourself "ok, I'm not meant to be here right now." Then decide how to turn that negative into a positive.
The longer you allow feelings of "defeat" in your life by feelings of upset, anger or being a victim, the more consuming it is and the only person it hurts is YOU - no one else.
Why would anyone want to stay in that negative funk if they have a choice to remove themselves from it?
Here are 10 ways to feel undefeated and make 2014 work for YOU:
1) Make a decision.
Spin the negatives into positives by making the decision to stop the negative feelings. How? First accept what has happened then find new opportunities from it. Fight back by immersing yourself into new activities, trying new things and challenging yourself. You will not only make new discoveries about yourself but you will meet new people along the way, you will grow as a person, and you will find yourself stronger and in a better place in your life than you ever thought possible. Do not look back and regret how much time you wasted feeling pity or anger when you could have been having the time of your life.
2) Do not limit yourself.
What you believe about yourself, manifests itself and plays a huge role in what happens to you on a daily basis. If you say things to yourself like "I'm too old for this or I'll never be as good as he/she.." etc., you will only grant your wishes. You will get what you put out. The only person that can stop you from reaching your highest potential is YOU. So stop it NOW. Remember, you are a human being after all; we are all designed in the same way. You can do whatever you want to do but first, change your beliefs.
3) Listen to your gut.
Your gut is the most powerful tool you have. Only you know what is best for you; what others say to you isn't relevant here. If you have supporters great but if you have several people telling you "you shouldn't do this/that..." while your gut tells you the opposite, listen to your gut as it is the most important voice.
Rule of thumb:
- If your gut feels uneasy/negative = It's not right for you. Stop what you're doing, change your path.
- If you feel at ease/positive = It's right for you. Continue the path you are taking.
4) Remove yourself from an unhappy relationship.
This one is a tough one for most people but if you find yourself lost and unhappy in a relationship then it's just not right for you. There is no sense in staying in something that is just unfulfilling that only makes you feel inadequate. A relationship should consist of a partner who compliments your life and doesn't take away your dreams but more so supports them. Society should also not be a reason why you are in an unhappy relationship with its expectations (ie. by now you should be married with children). NEVER settle. Again, follow your inner gut.
5) Help others.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own lives but by putting ourselves second to help others (i.e. this could be something as simple as a listening ear) whenever there is a need. This is a selfless act and one of the best ways to grow as a person. Not only will you help someone else but they will also teach you something in return about yourself. You will experience positive feelings in which you want more of. Life is about growing, learning and becoming a better person so look around and pay attention to your surroundings. You are needed.
6) Let go.
If someone in your life decides to lose touch even after you have attempted to stay connected, there is only so much you can do here - just let go. This is where acceptance of what others may comes in. You must respect the decision of others and it may be hurtful to you but there is not much else you can do here except decide whether you want to stay hurt or accept, move on and continue on a positive path.
7) Accept that others have their own life journey.
This is a continuation of #6. Everyone has their own life journey; everyone grows at a different pace and everyone needs to find their own meaning of life. Sometimes this doesn't include you and it can be hurtful when someone you care about is no longer in your life. The faster you look at it as "this is their life journey and they need to go in a direction that I cannot be a part of" the easier it will be to accept and move on in a positive note. Just in the same way you have your own life journey, everyone else has their own. No one can stop you from reaching where you are meant to be in life so you shouldn't resist when others need to go onto another path that may not include you.
8) Balance your life.
This can be challenging with how busy our lives can be but having a balanced life as in work, family, social life, relationships, love, hobbies, extracurricular, and spirituality can bring us the greatest joy as we are balanced in every sense. When one of these things are lacking in our lives we will noticed that something is missing and we can't seem to figure out why. Sometimes we need to change up the routine and reach out of the ordinary. We are constantly growing in life so to try new things that are out of our comfort zone should be no question.
9) Love without fear.
Real love between a man and woman is the most amazing feeling. Some only experience it once in their lives, others have the opportunity to feel it more than once in their lives and some never experience it at all. There are many opportunities that come in life to love someone but regrettably many miss those opportunities because of their fear of getting hurt. There are different types of love but I'm speaking of the unconditional love, almost spiritual, that one cannot explain, the kind of love that is not jealous, that supports dreams and makes you into the best, balanced person you can be. This type of love is rare but incredible. It is such an intense, most rewarding and beautiful experience that life can offer a human being. Yes there is a possibility of being hurt but the experience is mind blowing. There is nothing in this world like it.
10) Make goals.
Take a pen, paper and write down what you want this year. Set a time line, make a plan, decide what you haven't done and what you need to do to get to where you want by a certain time. There is something about visually seeing your own goals clearly written down that makes it much more powerful. Taking a look at your list of goals regularly will give you an extra push and remind you what you still need to do to reach your goals throughout the year. You will notice that you will accomplish much more this way.
Decide that you will be undefeated in 2014 and while you're doing it, don't forget to wake up with a smile because you are FAB. :)
#stayyoung #stayFAB #2014 - @fabjenetics